Parent-Child Conversation Starter: Defining Adulthood


Out of the Box Thursday

Last week, on Out of the Box Thursday, we looked at adulthood:

  • What it’s been
  • Where it is

This Thursday Friday (out of the box-box!), let’s find out how the younger set defines successful adulthood. They are the ones living with our examples; they see our failures and our successes.

And they are creating their own definition for their own futures.

Reviewing last week, we’ve given the motto a few decades to ripen and we’ve seen the fruit of the bumper sticker, He who dies with the most toys wins:

Some demand to be loved with money, and some demand to love by money.

And children are experiencing the fruit of much of the modern day mentality, He who lives (dies?) with the fullest calendar and the most stress wins. 

And they are asking many of us, in a variety of ways, to slow down, to be with them

  Out Walking

My own children were pleased when they discovered that mama not driving (health stuff) meant more long walks and less long drives on “errands.”  More time talking, less time fussing to be quiet because there’s traffic.

Have you seen or heard the cry of children for attention from their parents?  If they’ve been shut down often enough – or consistently enough – the cry won’t be verbal, and it may not be in outward behavior of rebellion, but it’s in their eyes.  And sadly more, in their hearts.

Young adults I’ve chatted with recently have expressed a healthy handle on a new (vintage? wise?)  adult definition:

Be responsible.
Have fun.
In that order.

The responsibility part gets a little tricky when we think we are responsible for more than we are.  And the fun part gets dicey when we’d rather have fun looking responsible than really being responsible to what and whom (and Whom) we are truly responsible.

If you doubt that adults need a redefining, did you see this?

I leave you with this quote from a young college student summarizing successful adulthood :

“As a child, you care only about yourself.

As an adult, you care only about the children.”

Just something to ponder on this Out of the Box Thursday Friday

Parent-Child Conversation Starter 

Ask your children:  What are YOUR thoughts about adulthood?  Be sure to them know it’s ok to speak freely!


I’d love to know what they have to say!





Thoughts ... Insights ... Questions?